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The Mysterious “Ow!” In Our Kitchen

Friends, I’m going to start blogging about the mysterious otherworldly things that keep happening to The Man and I. The funny thing is, since we fell in love, psychic occurrences seem to abound.

One thing The Man and I are especially interested in is other dimensions. My ex was a research scientist who was actually afraid of reading about other dimensions—he felt that if he did, he’d disappear into a rabbit warren of “what’s real and what’s not?” But the fact that his scientific PhD mind believed in other dimensions fascinated me.

Anyway, recently The Man and I have been reading about other dimensions in a book I’m obsessed with called The Wisdom of The Council by Sara Landon. One idea from the book is that we can raise our energy in order to access new and better realities. If you think this sounds barmy, I completely get it. But here’s what happened on Saturday:

The Man’s in the kitchen chopping potatoes. I walk through, heading for the living room. As I pass by, I hear him gasp, “Ow!” so I back-step and look across at him, but he’s already looking at me in consternation. “Are you alright?” he asks.

I’m alright,” I say. “Are you alright?”

“Only just,” he says. “Almost cut myself on this knife. But are you okay? I heard you say ‘ow’.”

“No, no, no,” I say. “YOU said ‘ow’.”

Neither of us had said ow. Nope. Someone else had said ow. Had The Man actually cut his finger in another dimension? Has he now evolved to a higher dimension through all the meditation we’ve been doing? Or did a random ghost decide to confuse us by saying ow?

Whatever the reason, we both heard that ‘ow’ clear as day. And that’s just one moment from our psychic relationship. This week, I’ll be blogging about more of these moments, too. After all, we have lots of them.

Have you experienced anything similar to this yourself? Do you believe in other dimensions?

Have a great day, my friends.



About US

Welcome! I’m Star Tavares. I am queer and nonbinary, and I use they/them pronouns. My hubby Jake is LGBTQIA+ too. Our plush duck is called Duck and is super-ducking awesome. He likes to call himself an award-winning duck because we wrote a screenplay about him that won some awards, and who are we to argue?

The thing is, we used to publish in the romance genres, but after we came out, we thought romance didn’t want us anymore. But you know what, toots? We were wrong.

Now we’ve rebuilt our confidence and are back to living our Romancey Pants life, writing, reviewing romance movies, reading romance novels, and doing a whole lot of stretching. (Did I mention we’re getting older?)

Want to know more about Star’s writing credits? Under another name, Star has published romance stories, novels, and novellas with presses like Harper Collins and Cleis, and has won awards for their shorter works from the likes of Glimmer Train, Screencraft, and Narrative, where they also worked as an editor. More recently, Star’s nonfiction about gender identity has appeared in The New York Times and at Huffington Post Personal.

Since Jake, who is also a romance author, is starting to add more reviews here (along with Duck’s best frenemy Sir Mallard Jones) watch this space for more about him and his career.

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