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Why I Rock Rejections Better Than a Rock Rocks Being Rocklike

Yesterday, friends, I received a romance manuscript rejection. It was a lovely, kind, thoughtful rejection. It said nice things, but it was still a rejection. Then again, over the years, I’ve come to see that without the rejections, I wouldn’t get the wins.

“You, dear Brit,” I tell myself, “rock rejections better than a rock rocks being rocklike.”

It’s true. Rocks are awesome. But I rock more.

As I write this post, The Man is in the other room doing his day job. Every time I pass him to get a cup of tea, (I’m known as The Brit for a reason!) I kiss his head. I love the scent of his hair. I love to feel his warmth. I love it when he pulls me in and holds me around him.

Yes, I love The Man more than anything in this world.

And I’d never have found him if I hadn’t left a partner who simply wasn’t that interested in me. I felt terrible about leaving. He didn’t want me to go. But as it happens, once I’d gone, he soon found someone else—someone who suited him better.

Rejection has to happen, right?

It makes way for love.



3 responses to “Why I Rock Rejections Better Than a Rock Rocks Being Rocklike”

  1. You have a fun and unique voice. I particularly enjoyed the squirrel romance.

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    1. Thank you so much! How generous of you. You have totally made my day!

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Welcome! I’m Star Tavares. I am queer and nonbinary, and I use they/them pronouns. My hubby Jake is LGBTQIA+ too. Our plush duck is called Duck and is super-ducking awesome. He likes to call himself an award-winning duck because we wrote a screenplay about him that won some awards, and who are we to argue?

The thing is, we used to publish in the romance genres, but after we came out, we thought romance didn’t want us anymore. But you know what, toots? We were wrong.

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Want to know more about Star’s writing credits? Under another name, Star has published romance stories, novels, and novellas with presses like Harper Collins and Cleis, and has won awards for their shorter works from the likes of Glimmer Train, Screencraft, and Narrative, where they also worked as an editor. More recently, Star’s nonfiction about gender identity has appeared in The New York Times and at Huffington Post Personal.

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