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How We Can Learn From The Darkest Part of the Romance Journey in Category Romance

Friends, I love learning about life from the darkest part of the romance journey. Most romances I’ve read have a dark shadow in them—a moment when the hero thinks things couldn’t get any darker within the context of their relationship. What’s beautiful about romance stories, particularly in category romance, is that this usually isn’t the end. There’s a turnaround—and it’s often to do with how the protagonist and their lover(s) get past the problem.

So, when things get dark, I remember Story. I say, “As with any story, this is not where my life has to stay. I will change things, grow, make things better. Just because I can’t see the HEA in this moment doesn’t mean it isn’t there waiting.”

Love to you all.



About US

Welcome! I’m Star Tavares. I am queer and nonbinary, and I use they/them pronouns. My hubby Jake is LGBTQIA+ too. Our plush duck is called Duck and is super-ducking awesome. He likes to call himself an award-winning duck because we wrote a screenplay about him that won some awards, and who are we to argue?

The thing is, we used to publish in the romance genres, but after we came out, we thought romance didn’t want us anymore. But you know what, toots? We were wrong.

Now we’ve rebuilt our confidence and are back to living our Romancey Pants life, writing, reviewing romance movies, reading romance novels, and doing a whole lot of stretching. (Did I mention we’re getting older?)

Want to know more about Star’s writing credits? Under another name, Star has published romance stories, novels, and novellas with presses like Harper Collins and Cleis, and has won awards for their shorter works from the likes of Glimmer Train, Screencraft, and Narrative, where they also worked as an editor. More recently, Star’s nonfiction about gender identity has appeared in The New York Times and at Huffington Post Personal.

Since Jake, who is also a romance author, is starting to add more reviews here (along with Duck’s best frenemy Sir Mallard Jones) watch this space for more about him and his career.

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