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How We Can Learn From The Darkest Part of the Romance Journey in Category Romance

Friends, I love learning about life from the darkest part of the romance journey. Most romances I’ve read have a dark shadow in them—a moment when the hero thinks things couldn’t get any darker within the context of their relationship. What’s beautiful about romance stories, particularly in category romance, is that this usually isn’t the end. There’s a turnaround—and it’s often to do with how the protagonist and their lover(s) get past the problem.

So, when things get dark, I remember Story. I say, “As with any story, this is not where my life has to stay. I will change things, grow, make things better. Just because I can’t see the HEA in this moment doesn’t mean it isn’t there waiting.”

Love to you all.



About US

Welcome! I’m Star Tavares. I’m queer, nonbinary, and intersex, and I use they/them pronouns. My hubby Jake is LGBTQIA+ too, as is our duck, name of Duck—he’s super-ducking awesome. He likes to call himself an award-winning duck because we wrote a screenplay about him that won some awards, and who are we to argue?

We used to publish in the romance genres, but after we came out, we thought romance didn’t want us anymore. But you know what, toots? We were wrong.

Now we’ve rebuilt our confidence and are back to living our Romancey Pants life, writing, reviewing romance movies, reading romance novels, and doing a whole lot of stretching.

Want to know more about Star’s writing credits? Under another name, Star has published romance stories, novels, and novellas with presses like Harper Collins and Cleis, and has won awards for their shorter works from the likes of Glimmer Train, Screencraft, and Narrative, where they also worked as an editor. More recently, Star’s nonfiction about gender identity has appeared in The New York Times and at Huffington Post Personal.

Please follow us here for romance reviews and personal rambles. And thanks so much for reading.

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